Preparing for your second baby is so very different than preparing for your first. With baby number one on its way you have all kinds of idle time to plan and daydream about what your life is going to be life as a family of three. You have date nights with your husband and you set up a rule that it's going to be a "baby-talk free zone" for the night because you otherwise spend every waking moment talking about and planning for her arrival. You can think of little else for 9 months.
But then when it comes to planning for baby number two, all of that time that you previously spent thinking about baby number one is now spent actually spending with baby number one, leaving very little time to daydream about number two. I found that we had to be deliberate in our thinking about number two. Time didn't permit us to aimlessly fantasise about what he's going to look like, or how life as a foursome was going to work. I found that I was feeling emotionally unprepared for our second baby because I hadn't spent the same amount of time daydreaming about him. I thought about a project that we had done when I was pregnant with Maddie and knew immediately that it would help me feel more prepared for the future, purely because I had dreamt about it with deliberation.
And so we put pen to paper for our hopes and dreams for our little baby boy.
Almost four years earlier we had done the same thing when I was pregnant with Maddie. We wrote down our dreams for Madeleine on a big pink letter "M", which has been on her bedroom door on each house wherever we have lived. We wrote down the characteristics that we found important for her, as well as words that meant nothing to anyone but the two of us, that we would one day explain to her (such as astronautess!!).
When it came time to do the same thing when i was heavily pregnant with Lachlan, I wanted to make it a little more boyish and also wanted to include Maddie in the process. We had created the nursery with a travel/plane theme and so I had the idea that we could each write down our special hopes for the baby on a piece of paper, which Pete could then fold into paper planes to stick on the map of the world mural I painted in the nursery.
Maddie did some colouring and wrote her letter "m" over and over (which I think means that her dreams for him to have an amazing big sister who will love and protect him for the rest of his life.....right?).
Pete and I have equally as important hopes and dreams for this little guy. With aspirations for him to be a Wallabies Fly-Half, to be courageous, proud and to obviously be good to his mama, our expectations aligned for him to know his heart and have faith in himself.
And now that he is here, I love how the finished product has come out, especially knowing what power and meaning this space now holds for us all. As I stand in Lachlans room, singing quietly to him as he falls asleep in his mamas besotted arms, I find myself staring down and dreaming all the big dreams for my baby boy.
I love that we took a little bit of time to dream a little for him.... And now Lachlan can spend some time with his head in the clouds!!